Encounter less stress at celebrations

    People with dementia may feel a sense of loss because of the changes they are experiencing and caregivers may feel overwhelmed by their responsibilities. As a result, caregivers might be reluctant to host guests during the holiday season.
    Here are some tips intended to make the holidays easier for caregivers and their loved ones:
    • Adjust expectations: Do what you can and don’t pressure yourself to follow holiday traditions.
    • Ask family and friends to bring an item for a potluck meal.
    • Have food delivered from a local restaurant, grocery store or hire a caterer.
    • Ask family or friends to host the meal at their home. That way you can leave if it becomes too loud or confusing for the person with dementia.
    • Involve your loved one with safe activities such as wrapping packages, hanging decorations and table setting.
    • Focus on meaningful holiday activities such as songs, reading scripture and favorite foods.
    • Ask a clergy member to hold a brief service in your home.
    • Try to maintain your loved one’s normal routine.
    When attending holiday events with your loved one:
    • Prepare the host for special needs such as a quiet room to rest, finger foods, soft music and address behaviors that might be uncomfortable.
    • Consider assigning someone to be with your loved one to identify other guests and provide assistance with eating and other activities so he or she feels engaged.
    If your loved one is not able to participate in holiday events, arrange for respite services
    To schedule an appointment to discuss care giving issues, call Marge Angilly, the program director for the Alzheimer’s Association Rhode Island Chapter, at (800) 272-3900.

    Camilla Farrell is development director of the Alzheimer’s Association Rhode Island Chapter in Providence. She can be reached at (401) 421-0008 or camilla.farrell@alz.org.